Regardless of a person's gender, possessive conduct may result from a variety of causes, most often personal anxieties, traumatic events, or certain personality features.A person may have feelings of insecurity over their value, status in the relationship, or self. To allay feelings of rejection or abandonment, this insecurity may give rise to a desire to dominate or own the other person.As a coping mechanism for their dread of reliving previous traumas like betrayal or abandonment, those who have gone through them may become possessive.
Feelings of inadequacy may be exacerbated by low self-esteem, which is why some people try to make up for it by controlling their spouse.Some people have a fear of losing their spouse, which may lead them to become possessive in an effort to fend off rivals or potential dangers.When there is a lack of trust in a relationship, one partner may feel compelled to control or observe the other in order to maintain fidelity, which may result in possessive behavior.
When someone is unsure about the durability of their
relationship, they may act possessively in an effort to feel in control and secure.It's important to understand that being possessive is not a good or healthy approach to keep a relationship going. The development of a respectful and healthy relationship between partners requires open communication, the establishment of trust, and the resolution of any underlying fears or problems. Consult friends, family, or experts for help if possessiveness becomes abusive or domineering.
